Lately, I have been noticing some trend that I can’t afford to ignore. Thanks to the behaviors I observe and conversations I have in the office.
It’s about those quite a few ladies I come across everyday. They earn more than their husbands, are not divorced or separated, but stay away from their men – mostly with their kids.
All the cases I have come across have their husbands staying in a different city and they seem to want it that way.
All of them, meticulously dressed well everyday to an extent that their over alertness of wanting to look good might almost get visible to the other person. Not looking good/for some not being attractive seems to be a complete no-no. Frankly when am with them, at times I kind of feel privileged to have the liberty to look casual and not so neat saving myself the toil of frequent rest room trips and minding my hair, kajal, ear-rings phewww..Ah and that extra responsiveness to compliments and attention (they get it and for most if they don’t they get surprised).
Ah and how can I not mention about their shopping sprees. Do a survey and you will find out that after those college Teenies, it could be them making Indian retailers mint money this way. They are most of the time low and everytime they are that they go shopping. ‘Splurging money on yourself is quite a high’, someone told me! Eh..OMG.
In conversations they would come out a little too vocal and blabbery. ‘Who cares whether I talk sense or not but I should be talking when with people’ is obviously behind minds. Always conscious that they should not be left out in a conversation.
They talk a lot about themselves, infact only about themselves. Smallest of incident’s a story: “You know I got up in the morning, wanted to drink water, poured some water into the container and suddenly dropped the container…hahhahahha…I am like that only you know”. (So? Trust me audiencing them at times can get shit boring).
Most of them little towards middle age, but boy you bet most look like just outa college. Something very attractive about them (though I don’t know or see what it is but…) men (OMG) are bowled over left and right (hehheehe!).
All of them I have seen are nice, warm, confident and practical women. And all of them have some kinda blankness on their face. Their faces, eyes do give you a hint of being in spring at some point of time, but seem to have deserted them long back. What is left is just that hint…
I don’t know what to make out of them. They are nice, very nice, adjusting. But there’s some chase everyday for attention, at times even for possibilities to get intimacy. ‘Notice me! Hear me out’ as though are words screaming out of their attitude. What I gather from it all is that they are lonely, extremely lonely. Compliments may come and go, attention is never static..what you are left with end of the day is yourself. You go back to a lonely home – no one to fight with, no one to pamper or be pampered, no one to listen to you – it’s all you and you everywhere. That gets onto you. Everyone around you thinks you have money you can buy it all..but can someone buy some company for them? Perhaps no. Sick? Ill? Down? Repair it all yourself or it remains thas way.
I don’t know I feel sorry for them..somewhere they are losing that softness, actually no probe deeper they are getting softer. I have been observing this colleague of mine who would project ‘nothing touches me’ kinda attitude but inside this lady gets tears in her eyes for smallest of thing.
These are just few thoughts am jotting down. Am somehow not able to put this into any perspective.
